Okay, as usual I presume that I am a minority in my thinking but just to clear the air beforehand, because I know people are going to jump all over me about it, let me give you a little disclaimer. I am not a relationship expert. I am a high school senior and college freshman studying to be a pharmacist. I may still be an arrogant kid. I use words like "most" or "a large percentage of" because I realize that not every case is the same, and not everyone will fit into the lump of people I am talking about. If you can honestly say to yourself that you don't fit the requirements, good for you. Pat yourself on the back. Don't give me your whole life story about how daddy left mommy for the babysitter. This is just my general overview of what I think. That being said, here is my personal belief.

Also, for ease of understanding, we'll give our people names. Sally and Harry are dating. Sally cheats on Henry with Jimmy. These aren't real people but it is easier to understand than "the lovers" and "the other guy."

If you're cheated on, odds are you probably deserved it.

Usually when someone is cheated on, it is because their lover whom has gone astray is looking for something that they can't provide. Obviously, that is why cheating is so popular. Of course, personal moral beliefs like refusing to have sex, is a different story. If Harry refused to have sex with Sally, Sally would look for sex with Henry if being physical was that important to her. Of course, it sounds terrible but it happens. But if Harry is always working, or immerses himself in video games more hours in a day than anything else, of course Sally would look for more.

So, Harry shouldn't be surprised if Sally is looking for someone who can make her happy right along side Harry. Jimmy here may be more in tune with her emotions, may make an effort to understand her more while Harry is too busy with work, drinking, friends, partying, school, or whatever it is that he does. Or maybe you could always pick fights with him, bring him down, call him nasty names even in jest, but when you do those little things they add up and make even "the fat, ugly, other girl" seem more desirable and beautiful than you.

So, the next time you're cheated on (which, hopefully is never) take a look back at yourself and ask why, and what you can do in the future to prevent it from happening again. No, don't snoop emails or text messages, or demand to know what they are doing every hour of the day. Don't call when they are with their friends, just to "check up" on them. Look at what you're doing to push someone away. Then, maybe you'll be more beautiful and desirable than anyone else on the block.

Then there are the others out there who have legitimately been cheated on with no prior incentive. My heart goes out to you, I hope you find happiness again if you haven't already. Whatever category you fall under, know that just because relationship A sucked, and maybe relationship B did too, relationship C is completely different and you shouldn't judge or base what happened in the past so that it completely messes up your present. With each old relationship coming to pass, learn something and take it with you to the next love interest.

I, myself, need to work on this.